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how to USE your EGO & WHY YOU SHOULD


~ It’s about expressing your soul’s essence through your ego. It’s like creating an idea and then expressing that. I think… 


I’m sure we have all heard other people talk about egos. “That person’s ego is waaayy too big!” “Look at her, she is so egoistic.” And I have to agree with a lot of these people. When I look at humanity, I see lots of them living from their ego. However, the question is if the ego is what makes these people so ugh..(sorry) or if it is the people themselves (what they do with the ego). 

Let’s look for a moment at what humans do with their egos. For example, Brenda is a fit girl, that label is now part of her ego. She lives through this. She counts the calories she eats… because she is a fit girl! You see, the ego can create this effect. Brenda does things, because she identifies with these physical labels. She doesn’t do things because her inner compass is telling her to do these things. I think that is the problem. Labels you put on yourself that connect you with collective groups will not give you an *authentic identity*.

It’s about expressing your soul’s essence through your ego. It’s like creating an idea and then expressing that. I think… 

If you think about it, it can be really beautiful! It’s like a game in which you can create the avatar. Whatever feels right for you, express that. Because you are beautiful, be unique, be weird, be yourself! 


As I already said in the intro: “It’s about expressing your soul’s essence through your ego.” You have to note that you can express your soul’s essence also through other ways. But I think that we connect the ego immediately with bad things. We hear things like: “kill your ego” But should we really do that? 

The ego is such a powerful tool to experience life deeper. It’s not wrong to care about certain things, however it shouldn’t be stronger than your soul’s drive. I am not a fan of brand clothing, because your soul doesn’t desire that. But it’s not wrong to want to wear certain clothing that resonates with your vibe. It’s okay to want others to look at you and think: “damn she is so … ” On the dots … you can put whatever message you want to give others. 

Come on baby, let’s express ourselves unapologetically! Don’t hide your amazing soul! The world needs your talents and uniqueness. And no you don’t have to influence 1 million people. Try to reach that one person. Change that stranger’s day! 


When others are around you, you want to give them a certain vibe. This vibe needs to be present in your aura and energy. But, to have an even stronger vibe, try to express this also through your ego. You want to inspire others with food, talk about food to your coworkers and friends. You want to inspire people about sharing love with one another. Be in love, wear clothes that make you and others feel loved. 

Everyone can inspire others, yes you too! You have something unique that can inspire others! How do you know how you want to inspire others? The first step is asking yourself questions like why you are her. This may seem a little deep, but you will find it out! 


Because… Why else did we got an ego? I think the ego can be a tool to experience life more deeply. Where else do we have egos? Having an ego here on earth is part of what makes this experience so unique! 

The ego can be that extra push you need sometimes. You gotta live life! Don’t just be in your head all day or only focused on your spiritual reality. You are here now, be present. A combination of becoming conscious of your mind, body and soul can help you with that.

Your ego can help you be proud of who you are. The ego makes you want to experience everything physical here on earth. It truly is an amazing trip on this planet! The ego can add some personality to this journey! 


Your ego helps you create a (temporary) identity. I am going to explain this with an example. Let’s use Brenda in this example. This time the ego doesn’t use her but she uses her ego. She wants to inspire others to live healthy. She is a cook at a vegan restaurant and she has a dream of owning her own restaurant one day. Her ego can help her with getting to this reality. Instead of her ego identifying with “I am a cook at a restaurant”, start identifying with “I am a cook at my own restaurant”.

Show up as that person. Tell others about your new recipes and tips! Inspire others with your amazing meals. This will open doors you thought you didn’t have the key too! By being genuine, you will make valuable connections. And maybe, just maybe, the right opportunity falls at your doorstep! I think there is a big chance of this happening, as long as you show up as the person you want to be and act upon it. 


Sometimes we are so focused on connecting with the higher self, spirit guides and other spiritual beings/energies. That we forget to stay on earth. The ego can help you with that. Not by being guided by your ego, but by grounding yourself. When we do this, the ego will become more balanced. Sometimes you have to acknowledge your existence in the present. Do things you like and that make you feel good. Don’t focus for now on the why or what. Why are we here? What are we doing? No, just put your feet in the ground and be here physically. Especially if you are an Aries, Leo or Sag Sun 🙂


Is it wrong to like physical things that aren’t nature or people? No, of course not! I don’t think it’s bad to listen to music that is not “spiritual”. If you like hardstyle, that’s totally okay! It doesn’t make you less spiritual. To me it’s important to have an identity and passions. Not just spiritual ones, but also physical ones. Those physical ones can create an ego. As long as it makes you experience this life deeper, you can make these things as part of your identity.

You are a human being with passions and hobbies, embrace them. Embrace your uniqueness and individuality. The ego is all about your individual identity! Not being part of the system or norm. No, here we are creating our own systems and rules! F*ck being weird or an outcast. Live life and explore new paths! 


When I was young I struggled with my identity. I always felt like I was so much more than just this face. At night I would stare into my eyes when I was brushing my teeth. I remember observing myself, not in a judgemental way. Rather in a questioning way like who I am? Why am I here? I think this leads to me not having a strong sense of identity. I knew very well how other people worked (their minds). But I didn’t know myself. 

As I grew older I started to understand myself more and more. I started to find out which musique lifted up my mood and the clothing that made me feel good. It’s about finding what makes your heart beat faster. Then.. When you have found that, implement that into your ego/identity. 


I think you SUN sign shows a lot about your ego. Your SUN sign is about how you identify yourself this life. It’s intresting to look at what your zodiac sign is and learn about expressing this. This is a healthy way of exploring your ego. When its literally written in the stars (you remember that song?) its a sign to show up as that sign/person. Your ego is your identity this life. Show up as her and be authentic <3

This is it for today. I hope this article helped you and inspired you in some way.

On this site I have more information about the Planets. I think finding out your dominant planet will help you become more authentic and will make it easier to follow your soul purpose. To find out your dominant planet you can take this quiz.

Let today or tonight be an enlightening time and may you connect with your energy. Take a deep breath and get in touch with your energy. Just be in this moment!

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May our souls meet again!

-xx- Nella

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